Ok gents, it is your turn. I’ve found this phenomenon with most of my grooms that they are actually pretty easy going in front of the camera. I so love getting guys in front of the camera because they tend to own their swagger a little more confidently than my girls, but I also recognize that your wedding day comes with its own set of stressors. So let’s break down my top tips for my grooms during your portrait session!
1. Take a drink (seriously!)
If you don’t quite know what to do with your hands (the struggle is real here, right!?), then hold a beverage! Most of grooms get ready somewhere where they have access to a cocktail, beer, or even just a cool looking glass that we can easily fill with a liquid of your choice. I just find that if the nerves set in that holding a glass can automatically help you to ease into the pose as you relax your posture. Don’t feel like the drink has to be alcoholic if that isn’t your thing…just give yourself something to hold for a couple of shots or take that time to cheers with your main dudes! I talk more in general about what do with your hands here.
2. Tie, Cufflinks, or Buttons
When you’re standing still, try pretending (or actually) tying your tie, buttoning your shirt, or adjusting your cufflinks. I am the type that often just needs something to do in front of the camera, so if that sounds like you then keep on “getting ready” and mess with different parts of your attire to take your mind off the camera. Plus, I bet you look dapper in front of the camera with a little smirk or laugh while you keep getting ready for your bride!
3. Ignore the camera
I know it sounds like a total conflict to ignore the camera, but I gave my brides this same advice. If you can get your head out of picture mode, I believe that you’ll be able to smile more naturally and you’ll be excited to take a few shots. You may not be able to do this for the whole session, but it is a great place to start if you feel like you’re freezing up.
Shoving your hands into your pockets can easily distract you and ease you into a great pose! I always try a few different poses with my grooms, so don’t be afraid to use your pockets or even hold onto your lapel if it feels more natural to you. I’ll adjust your hands around if the pose isn’t looking solid, but overall this can be a great way to do something with your hands when you don’t have an object nearby.
5. Get Your Bride
I love to have my brides join us for the groom shots (and vice versa!) because that’s what the whole day is about anyway! She can help you laugh and enjoy your portraits by standing off to the side and just chatting with you. If she isn’t available in the moment, then I highly recommend grabbing someone else that helps you laugh a lot! We want to capture you at your most joyful moments!
Next week, I’m wrapping up this series with all the tips for your portraits together. Stay tuned!
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